"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."
Siddhartha Gautama Buddha

To stop hating, first, you gotta start loving yourself.

This is basically, the fundamental step to actually start loving. It's something like, if you don't learn how to love yourself, how would people expect you to give them the love they need from you, right? If you don't possess the love for yourself, you can't even have the qualification of sharing or giving your love for others. Makes sense, no?

To start loving yourself, you've gotta...

Accept yourself as you are, be it the good, the bad, the weird, the dark side of you. You need to have the courage to accept who you are before you learn how to love yourself. Yes, everyone has flaws, no one is perfect, but these flaws present the REAL you. By loving yourself, you're showing others how you are actually treating yourself, how should they eventually learn the way to treat you and also, they would know, how are you going to treat them! It's a win-win solution, right? 

No one can love you more than you ever love yourself!

Seriously, how can self-love be limited, and it gets capped or restricted by what/who? Your parents? The governors? The implemented laws? NO. It's NOTHING. Nothing can stop you from loving yourself! I'm not talking about being as a narcissist, but in the sense of treating yourself better. Sometimes, after an exhausted day, you've already used up every ounce of your energy to get things flow smoothly, you deserve to get pampered! Splurge a little on yourself, make yourself happy by doing the things you love, etc... These are also some ways to show that you actually love yourself by treating yourself a tad better, mentally and physically.

& then, you should ditch all the hatred!

So you could make some space in your heart, soul, and mind for some love. Really, if you know you are easily getting frustrated at minor, mediocre, useless, insignificant stuffs, ask yourself, why? Why would you wanna make your life miserable by drawing yourself down in this emotional whirlpool? What's the worth? Seriously, sometimes, you just have to learn and let go. Yes, there are times that you might wanna burst out screaming on top of your lungs, but subsequently, you still need to get over it. The problems you're facing now, will eventually be irrelevant in the days, months or years to come. There will always be new problems occurring, so why not, take a step back and enjoy the awesome things you're neglecting now instead? Don't forget, these wonderful things won't last either!

Everyone needs love, & love is free.

Each and everyone of us comes from a very different background. You won't know where or how that someone is being raised up, so stop judging... There's always a part of the saddest history in one's life, you won't know until he/she confides in you. Everyone is fighting their own battle, some, they are just a silent warrior, they keep it low. Yea... You don't know and will never know about someone's past. As they are trying hard to win her/his battle, the least you could do is to show some love, share and spread the love. It's free, love is unlimited, it's free-flowing, just like the waterfalls. You don't see waterfalls getting dried up, do you?

But how? How to show the love?

Spreading a small amount of unconditional love really brings a lot of happiness to one. The person who thinks that they least deserve the love from anyone are those who actually deserves the most. It's not tough to show the love. Love comes in many ways, it can be in form of caring of others, sending a RANDOM heartfelt message to friends, finding out how have they been, even a smile to a stranger on the road could make a big difference! Can you imagine, when a worker has had a bad day at work, he is all grumpy and moody, nothing goes well for him but hey, when he receives a smile from a random passerby, it literally would brighten up his day. At least, there's someone who is willing to spread the small act of friendliness to people around, and you know, I KNOW YOU KNOW IT, that... Happiness is contagious!

Really, one should stop hating & start loving.

Yes, I had a couple of heated incidents with people in my past but as the years passed, the hatred is now gone. Despite the fact that we are no longer in contact, but I don't hate them anymore. What's more to hate anyway, you cannot undone the past. In fact, I felt wasted for all these friendships built. One argument generally leads to the end of a friendship, when your clouded mind is cleared, when you want to reconcile with them, it just feels too late... Probably, maybe, sometimes, I just don't have the courage to restart this whole friendship thing and let the nature takes its course. Trust me, I really don't bear grudges and when I say there's no longer any hatred in me, I do mean it.

Live for the moment.

Start loving.

Stop hating.

Life will be better. :)

Xx